Sougaijam Priyokumar Meitei, Maringmei Philip, MC Arunkumar
All humankind naturally has a calculative stand, based on his own profit and loss. When we talk about gender imbalance, men are benefitted and women are usually disadvantaged category. Are we ready to give up the calculative stand, the old values which favour men? Gender gap remains as a curse over decades because it incurs a transaction of profit and loss being regulated by vicious circle of old traditional values and beliefs. Women’s work and duties to a family are of tremendous value but remained invisible and the productivity or profit so obtained is rather cumulated to the score of man. A woman is better known by her father or her husband in our society. Gender inequality is also largely determined by the way of socialisation. A boy is taught that a girl should be respected, regarded as a model of goddess, a girl is full of loving, caring and is a suitable helper. In this school of teaching, the achieved status and the ability of a woman is generally underestimated. On the other hand, a girl is taught that men are stronger, to maintain safe distance and to some extent some avoidances and to have great patience. The psychology thus developed in such a different teachings of socialisation has created controversial between the two in later stages. Why do we socially address the wife of Mr. X as Mrs. X but not in vice versa? In Hebrew Bible, God created man first and later created woman out of man’s rib? “It is not good that the man should be alone I (God) will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18 & 21). Why man first? The texts were written in favour of man. No doubt man is favoured in most of the epics or texts. In Mahabharata epic Queen Draupadi had been used as a bet for dice gambling; it showed the male hegemony practice towards the woman. The old values are deeply incorporated in belief system and therefore social legislations could not become effective and ultimately inhibits revolutionary steps against gender biasness. It is a tricky thing to promote gender balance by compromising the old values. There could be a range of deviation in expression and presentation while executing gender policies. Wording may change without changing the meaning. There are plenty of politically favoured reactions such as women empowerment, women’s seat reservation, gender equality, girl’s education but male hegemony could not be changed. It sounds like no visible change is observed in spite of the policies and constitutional acts. Man cannot be always rational and do not want to readily give up the old business, his authority or dominating powers which involve a quantum of loss in transaction. With this trend, there is rise of mental pressures, emotional violence, mental illnesses, conflicts and jealousy in between the two gender categories.
Sougaijam Priyokumar Meitei, Maringmei Philip, MC Arunkumar. Women in patriarchal code of living. International Journal of Humanities and Social Science Research, Volume 5, Issue 6, 2019, Pages 140-144